When the positive screen comes back, we are forced to make a decision if we want to do an amniorightnow to know for sure. This in itself can cause miscarriage. I don't know about you, but for someone who is on her 4th pregnancy with no live babies yet, the risk of causing another miscarriage is simply not worth it. So, we wait and wonder if our babies are going to be born with special needs or if they are going to be "normal" (all relative). For those of us who would not terminate the pregnancy, the only reason to do an amnio is for peace of mind. But then we risk killing our unborn child just for peace of mind? Some doctors will argue that it's best to know ahead of time so the baby can be well taken care of at birth. While I agree with this, aren't babies born every day with special needs that no one knows about until birth? They are just as well taken care of as babies who were diagnosed with something in utero.
This has been something that has been at the front of my mind since getting a positive screen for DS...or should we say, increased odds for your age/weight/ethnic group. ?? It has tormented me from the moment I found out. And I hate it! I have really had to force myself to think about what it will be like to have a child with DS. If it happens, how different will our lives be? How do I protect my child from the hatefulness of others? How do I provide the best care for a special needs child? But you know what? I would do all of these things anyway...regardless of their needs status. My husband and I talked in length last week about it...we've been kinda sweeping it under the rug, too terrified to talk about it. But once we got it all out in the open, it was better. I was ready to have an amnio done now just to know. But then realized that I could risk pre-term labor, infection, etc. We said no thank you. So, we wait for 10 more weeks to find out. In the meantime, I am going to prepare for her arrival! And you know what else? I'm not so much worried about her status at birth as I am about making sure she gets to the birthing point! Still birth is by far my greatest fear at this point. So, I pray non-stop, feel terrified 99.9% of the time and hope for the best. So, LaLa, this is for you. You will get through this and you will be ok. No matter what! We'll get through it together!!